A little something you forgot to consider

When you look at the world you see a combination of brilliance and dirt altogether. It makes you want to get out and explore every single part of it, every possible human emotion and at the same time, it makes you want to run to bed and stay there forever. It’s like being in a huge library with a billion books. You wish you’ll choose the most fascinating ones, those that will teach you a lot and make you a wiser person but still… you cannot know the ending in advance. There’s always a risk.  It’s scary – terrifying actually – but I suppose life can give you a few things that are worth the “pain and the aches of the outcoming fortune” in the words of the Danish Prince.

It is incredible that you have all these choices concerning who you want to become and how you want to use your life in order to contribute to society. But what most people forget to mention when they talk about the endless possibilities is risk and fear. The smallest choice you make has outcomes. There’s never a win-win situation. You always have to face consequences, responsibilities and stand up for the path you took and for the person you are today.

We chose friends, behaviors, careers, lovers, places to live in and even ways to approach situations. Every little thing is crucial but there are some choices bigger than others. These are the choices that will change your life. When you stand in front of a choice this big, I tell you, it’s scary. Nobody mentions that. Everyone goes on and on about doing the right thing but… when you’re actually standing a step away from opening one door or another, you can’t see “right” or “wrong”. You can only see the regret at the end of each way and you’re afraid of it. There are paths that guarantee security and others that involve greater risk.

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Making the step is hard. But no matter what you have been thinking so far, no matter what all the voices around you have been going on and on about, you have to take a step back and put yourself in the microscope. I don’t mean endless hours of worrying and re-thinking – which is something I am guilty of, to be honest – but to really stand across your deepest desire and ask yourself “Where do you want to go?”.

This process is usually so hard because we forget to keep in mind the fear that goes with it. It’s what we forget to consider when we make plans. Fear is usually a huge part of our choices but it shouldn’t be. Go with your gut. There is an instinct inside every one of us, we’ve just learned to ignore it over the years while trying to rationalize everything.

Remember back when you were a kid? You took one look at a person and you knew if you liked them or not. You went to ballet lessons for a week to find out you want to quit and then you tried piano and Italian and none of those were right for you. You knew and you were not afraid to admit you changed your mind. Nobody would call you a loser. Then, you finally tried tennis or playing the tuba and it was fun. You couldn’t see the time to go to practice. That’s what we suppress over the years, our pure instincts. We learn to like what we should like but, how will we ever be happy if we don’t risk walking the road our heart tells us it leads to happiness?

Charles Bukowski said “Go all the way” and he was right. If you don’t go all the way, you’ll never know. It takes a huge amount of courage to stop thinking of every little thing that can go wrong and focus on your pure desire. Don’t be afraid of it. Take a step on the path your heart points at. There must be some reason. Show it some trust and you’ll eventually find out why it took you there.

Have a magical day,

glance at the sky

by Elena Ktenopoulou

Unsolved mysteries inside

It’s happened to you. It’s happened to all of us. For some it’s a smell, a song, a color, an object… anything, really! To me, it’s usually light. The way the sun comes in from a window. It instantly takes me to another place without me expecting it and forces me to get in a mood. Firstly, the mood I had in that particular memory – it kind of feels like time-travel – and then instant and inescapable nostalgia. I know you’ve experienced it.

You’re at a friends house having dinner. You taste the chicken pie that looks delicious and all of a sudden it tastes just like the one your grandmother used to make when you were a kid. The memory strikes you hard. You suddenly feel as careless as you were at that moment, playing with you cousin in the back yard. A feeling of light sadness follows. You guessed it. Today, we talk about memories

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Memories are a huge part of life. They are past experiences that form our actions, our choices and the biggest part of ourselves today. People since the beginning of time have been trying to find ways to keep memories alive for as long as possible. They did it by telling stories, painting portraits, writing books and then printing them so anyone could have access and for the past century memories are recorded in cameras: photographs and video so they never die. Is that enough to keep them alive, though?

Even if you experienced something with an other individual, the memory of that incident will be completely different in their mind than it will be in yours. Memories are to a great extend – if not completely – subjective. They are formed inside your head and they are mixed with you perception of reality, you feelings, your personality and you past experiences. Researches have shown that the more you talk about something you experienced, the stronger the memory of it gets in your mind. So, you are more likely not to forget about it in the future.

A lot of people believe that we are our memories, that our lives are actually a collection of past moments. But is that so? Since everything has passed and all we’re left with is the present, are we rally a pile of memories all together or is it a little more complicated than that?

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At some point, bad things will happen. You will not be who you were, neither will I. At that moment, don’t sit around remembering who you used to be, missing your life back then. There’s always a way to make it better. Benefit form your experiences and don’t repeat mistakes – if you can, if you do repeat… don’t be afraid to try again! –

We might be just a collection of moments or we might be our present self and nothing more. In the future we might not even be… at all. No matter what, be grateful for where you’ve been so far – because it’s made you, you! – and work for where you’re going to be in the future. Get to work! You have so many new memories to make.

have a magical day,



glance at the sky

by Elena Ktenopoulou