A little something you forgot to consider

When you look at the world you see a combination of brilliance and dirt altogether. It makes you want to get out and explore every single part of it, every possible human emotion and at the same time, it makes you want to run to bed and stay there forever. It’s like being in a huge library with a billion books. You wish you’ll choose the most fascinating ones, those that will teach you a lot and make you a wiser person but still… you cannot know the ending in advance. There’s always a risk.  It’s scary – terrifying actually – but I suppose life can give you a few things that are worth the “pain and the aches of the outcoming fortune” in the words of the Danish Prince.

It is incredible that you have all these choices concerning who you want to become and how you want to use your life in order to contribute to society. But what most people forget to mention when they talk about the endless possibilities is risk and fear. The smallest choice you make has outcomes. There’s never a win-win situation. You always have to face consequences, responsibilities and stand up for the path you took and for the person you are today.

We chose friends, behaviors, careers, lovers, places to live in and even ways to approach situations. Every little thing is crucial but there are some choices bigger than others. These are the choices that will change your life. When you stand in front of a choice this big, I tell you, it’s scary. Nobody mentions that. Everyone goes on and on about doing the right thing but… when you’re actually standing a step away from opening one door or another, you can’t see “right” or “wrong”. You can only see the regret at the end of each way and you’re afraid of it. There are paths that guarantee security and others that involve greater risk.

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Making the step is hard. But no matter what you have been thinking so far, no matter what all the voices around you have been going on and on about, you have to take a step back and put yourself in the microscope. I don’t mean endless hours of worrying and re-thinking – which is something I am guilty of, to be honest – but to really stand across your deepest desire and ask yourself “Where do you want to go?”.

This process is usually so hard because we forget to keep in mind the fear that goes with it. It’s what we forget to consider when we make plans. Fear is usually a huge part of our choices but it shouldn’t be. Go with your gut. There is an instinct inside every one of us, we’ve just learned to ignore it over the years while trying to rationalize everything.

Remember back when you were a kid? You took one look at a person and you knew if you liked them or not. You went to ballet lessons for a week to find out you want to quit and then you tried piano and Italian and none of those were right for you. You knew and you were not afraid to admit you changed your mind. Nobody would call you a loser. Then, you finally tried tennis or playing the tuba and it was fun. You couldn’t see the time to go to practice. That’s what we suppress over the years, our pure instincts. We learn to like what we should like but, how will we ever be happy if we don’t risk walking the road our heart tells us it leads to happiness?

Charles Bukowski said “Go all the way” and he was right. If you don’t go all the way, you’ll never know. It takes a huge amount of courage to stop thinking of every little thing that can go wrong and focus on your pure desire. Don’t be afraid of it. Take a step on the path your heart points at. There must be some reason. Show it some trust and you’ll eventually find out why it took you there.

Have a magical day,

glance at the sky

by Elena Ktenopoulou

Accepting Diversity

Th truth is, we are not that different. We are mostly the same. We share basic needs, curiosity for the world, the desire to belong, fear of the unknown and so much more. Why do we focus so much on diversity, though?

According to Freud, we like to look at our differences because it helps us define ourselves individually. We cannot have a fully objective picture of ourselves, it is much easier if we look at us in comparison to others. The problems begin when societies start labeling things “right” or “wrong”.

Every human characteristic or each choice has some reason behind it. Unfortunately, even in our time, a lot of people refuse to see that.  We rush to conclusions and prefer to label something as “intolerable” instead of trying to understand it, accept it and make it part of the world as we know it – as long as it is not harmful to anyone, of course.- We grow up in a world, where hate is normal and marginalization is accepted. We have come such a long way. We are now able to walk on the moon, why can’t we accept the people around us? Why can’t we focus on the similarities and make the differences a way to connect even more? It took humanity such a long time to accept homosexuality or to understand that we are equal regardless of our colour or our ethnicity. Is that so hard to see?

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When we take a look in history, we will see that demonizing certain behaviors, actions or lifestyles was what kept people docile. The ones with authority made sure to keep everything happening their own way by filling the minds of people with hate. So, when someone took a step away from the norm, most people would either get him to return to the “acceptable” behavior or reject them completely.

Looking at the world today, we will inevitably notice that this state of mind has not gone away completely  as someone would expect. We tend to find it easier to hate than try to understand. It is up to each one of us to end this.

The world is beautiful because of those small differences that make each of us special. It is finally time to stop being afraid of what doesn’t look like everything we are used to seeing and embrace individuality. Color, gender, ethnicity, physical appearance or sexuality say nothing about the true self of a person. They are only small details that make up only a part of who they are. If we let ourselves see the good in people, no matter what, maybe we’ll be one step closer to that ideal society – which we’ll probably never reach… but that’s a topic for another Sunday afternoon.

Have a magical day,

glance at the sky

by Elena Ktenopoulou

Never ending dream chase

When I was a kid, I couldn’t wait for the future. I would ask my mom how many days are left until I’m a grown-up – free to do what I want any time I want to. Little did I know… I had no idea that Peter Pan was right when he chose to stay in Neverland and I secretly wish I’d followed him when I still had the chance. But we grow… we become adults and take life in our own hands and those things that once seemed like a faraway dream, are now everyday worries, all written down in To-Do Lists on the refrigerator looking judgmentally at you day and night. What happened?

When you’re little, you dream, you idealize the future and somewhere inside you, you know that you will do everything right. You won’t make the stupid mistakes all the other grown-ups make. You’re so much wiser. You’ll succeed and thrive. It can’t be that hard when you’re free to do your own thing. Soon, life will prove you wrong and you’ll you might forget your great dreams somewhere along the way.

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Dreams are not only the most important thing of our childhood, dreams must remain a great part of our adulthood as well. The fast rhythm of life makes us lose our way and forget where we are going. We settle. We settle for safety, for comfort or because we are secretly afraid to find out what would actually happen if we had the courage to pursue that dream. We make up excuses that convince the rest but they’re never enough to convince ourselves. Deep down we all know they’re carefully made-up and brilliantly convincing lies. Not for our family or our friends who wonder why we changed our minds but for the kid in us asking why we ended up betraying that once-so-clear vision.

Taking risks in a world that never helps the ones who dream of something greater is hard. It takes everything you’ve got and yes… you might lose everything you gained with so much hard work but… there’s one slight chance if you trust that little dreamer you left behind somewhere on the way here, you’ll find the life you once thought you would have. Don’t you know that this is the one you deserve?


Dreams must play the role of a map or a compass in life. We must always look at them to tell us where to go. The journey is what will make us happy and complete but looking at that destination will keep us on the right path. It’s ok to change your mind and let your dream change as you evolve as a person but never settle for less and never give up. There is incredible strength in each of us. You’ll be surprised to find out how much of it is hidden in you. If you have dreamt it, even as a child, you do have what it takes to do it.

It might mean you’ll have to sacrifice comforts and time and even people in your life. But would you rather wonder forever?

have a magical day,

glance at the sky

by Elena Ktenopoulou